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[erbie]

do you feel weird hanging out with your husband and his (college) friends, since they're all younger than you? Does the age difference ever present any problems?

No, not at all. I don't see him as an age, I just see him as himself. It was a little weird, at first, when they were all in such a different stage of their lives than I was, but now, not at all. And since we so rarely get to see them, it's always a treat to spend time with them. I have made my own friendships with many of them as well. One of them was one of MY attendants in our wedding, in fact, though she would have been his attendant if I hadn't asked her first.

Aside from disapproval from his parents for the first two years of our relationship, the age difference has never caused problems. Sometimes we laugh at each other because there are things in our childhoods and teen years that are from such very different times. I never knew what the big deal was with New Kids on the Block, and he never used quite as much hair product, but it's really trivial stuff like that.

And really, age is relative. I see that more and more, the older I get. I think a lot of his friends are more together and act more like grownups than I do. I don't feel my age. I don't feel any different than I did 10 years ago, except that now I'm married and I have a child. I have friends who are 20 years older than I am, and 10-15 years younger, and they all have something that makes me want to be in their lives.

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[brinshannara]

and he never used quite as much hair product

Bets? I seem to recall attempting to run my fingers through his hair and his hair acting like a steel shield. There was NO movement. None. Nada. Zip. Niente.

Just some 90s trivia for you, in exchange for the all-out guffaw I experienced upon reading that. :D

[erbie.livejournal.com]

Bets? I seem to recall attempting to run my fingers through his hair and his hair acting like a steel shield. There was NO movement. None. Nada. Zip. Niente.


Okay, but that wasn't during our relationship. Heh.

TO give you an idea of how much product I used to use, I was able to stick my head out the car window going 65 down the freeway, and not a hair moved.

[mshea.livejournal.com]

I remember hanging out with you when your hubby was in college, right after you guys first met. I think we were all more likely to introduce you as, "This is Erbie; she's from California," than "This is Erbie; she's older than us." Honestly, I never really noticed you being much older than us. For the most part, we're close enough in age to have the same cultural memories, and more importantly, you acted like a college student (just in the good ways). I always just considered you as one of my friends, regardless of age.

Oh, by the way, my parents asked the other day how you both and Bob were doing. :)

[erbie.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I always felt the same about you guys. I never lived on campus when I was in college, so it was fun for me to get to experience that through you guys. And I never really thought of myself as so much older. It just wasn't an issue as far as I was concerned.

Tell your parents we're doing very well, and thanks for asking. I think about your family every Hannukah, after spending that one with you. Your mom's latkes are the best I've ever had! I hope your family is doing well. (and you too, of course!)